Time For Honesty: Admitting Your Addiction

Addiction – no matter whether it is drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex or other additions – is a sure-fire way to destroy your life. But you already know that or you wouldn’t be reading this right now. Chances are, you know you’re addicted to something and you are struggling to figure out how to not only deal with it, but how to tell your loved ones about your addiction. That’s okay.

Addiction is an attempt to overcome a perceived weakness. It is a way to avoid some kind of pain that you don’t want to face. Most people who have addictions also have an underlying issue that fortifies the reasons for their addiction and in that way, admitting to your addiction is admitting to those underlying issues.

Sometimes, the people in your life may not understand or, worse, they may invalidate the pain you have experienced that your addiction somehow alleviates. This is not always the case but the fact that it is a possibility can make admitting your addiction much more difficult. But you know you have an addiction and – more importantly – you are in a place where you want to recover from it. Some people use terms that make it sound like an addiction is some kind of human flaw; as if you’re not the perfect person you aspire to be.
Words like:

  • addict
  • coke-head
  • crack-head
  • junkie

Can ostracize people (like you) who are aware of their addiction but afraid to come forward and admit it.
The stereotypes associated with addiction may apply to you in a complete way. But they may not apply at all.
It is important to know that the first step to recovery is to admit to your addiction. And while an addict can – with proper treatment – conquer their addiction, it helps to have the support of friends, family, therapists, sponsors, and colleagues.

Two things to keep in mind are:

Your life is your own.

Remember that you are the only one in control of your life and – by admitting your addiction – you are a step ahead of those who deny their addictions.

Your Addiction Has A Root Cause

Addiction typically is rooted in some kind of unresolved issue that needs to be addressed. Aside from your addiction, there is/are wounds that you have to address that will help you overcome the reasons behind why you do the self-destructive things that you do. But while you may have a solid grasp on your addiction, it takes a tremendous amount of courage to admit that you have an addiction. Beyond that, even more courage to not only admit it to your loved ones, but to show the vulnerability necessary to admit that you need help.

If you are at a point in your life where you realize that your addiction is destroying your life, family, work, and relationships, then you are at a place where you can openly admit that you have a challenge. Here are some tips on how to tell those closest to you, about your struggle and your intentions to overcome it.

Don’t Be Afraid

The first challenge is to confront the fears of judgment. The fact is, you are addicted and that is the truth. You’ll get nowhere fast if you don’t admit to the problem despite a fear of judgment.

Stop Expecting So Much

You are undoubtedly doing everything you can to maintain some semblance of normalcy but you are expecting too much from yourself. The fact is, you can only care for those you love, as much as you care for yourself. Although it may sound counterintuitive, the truth is you must care for yourself before you can care for those you love.

Don’t Expect Complete Acceptance

Some people in your life may not be willing to accept your admission to your addiction. You have to be prepared for those who simply deny that you have a problem. You know your inner world and struggles more than anyone. Be prepared to accept that there are those in your life who may not be willing to accept your addiction and hold onto your own personal realization that you are struggling with addiction.

In the end, when you come to the realization that you are struggling with an addiction, it is ultimately up to you to make the choice to seek treatment. Only you can choose to change the trajectory of your life so it’s important to be able to identify those in your life who are supportive, versus enablers.

If you are ready to begin the journey to healing, contact us today and we can help you navigate the tumultuous – but rewarding – journey to healing.